Games. We all play them at some point in our lives. Some of us play innocent games like Scrabble or Pictionary, and then others play games of the heart. Games in relationships, in my opinion are stupid and I am learning that I have zero patience for them.
What is it that inspires us to play these games. Flirting is one thing. We playfully banter back and forth with the person we are attracted to, in hopes that it will spark some conversation or deepen the attraction. Then it comes to the point where you have to acknowledge where the relationship is going, and the games begin. Skirting around the issue. Not wanting to say an answer one way or another, so you play hard to get. Hard to get ahold of, you stop answering calls or lessen the amount of times you text. So, what makes us so afraid? Why do we fear making a decision so much that we play a gave, of avoidance really?
I think the obvious answer is to protect ourselves. We get in situations where we are flattered by what is going on and what people are saying to us, and it takes you down a road that leads to real heartache. When the person that is not as attracted realizes that, they start to squirm because they know that inevitably they are going to cause some hurt feelings. So why not be blunt ?
Just like a band aid, why not just rip it off and let the sting happen if it is inevitable anyway? Why play the games and lead someone to believe that you still might be interested? I think in our society today we are so selfish and out for number one, that we forget to care for others and take their feeling into account. We don't want to feel any worse about ourselves, so by avoiding hurting others, we avoid hurting our-self. Games are just a mask for future hurt.
I think most of us have experienced this. Where we get ourselves into a tough spot and have to make a choice in order to get out. For me, I would like to apologize right now, to anyone who I have treated this way. As boring as my time in Missouri is right now without a job, it has allowed me an opportunity to reflect on areas of my life in which I would like to change. I, Curtis Wilson, am a selfish man. By the grace of God I have the opportunity make choices to change that though.
So, my challenge to those who read my blog is this....and not to quote John Mayer but........say what you need to say. If you are in a situation and you have reached that point where some real tough honesty is necessary..... then speak that honesty. Yea, it might be tough, but in the long run you will be respected for it and avoid alot more hurt.
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